Getting pregnant is a lottery.  You spend your youth paranoid that you might fall pregnant when it would make your life difficult and then you realise one day that coming off contraception is not like an automatic “opt-in” guaranteeing you a child.  Some are up the duff in a snap, then have tremendous issues with second children while others are told they will never conceive and suddenly find themselves surprised to be parents.  Personally i think falling pregnant has a lot to do with probabilities and perhaps that is why there is so much “unexplained” infertility.  Perhaps the gods of statistics just aren’t favouring certain individuals when really there is no biological reason that it shouldn’t happen.  I have to confess that it irks me a bit when couples are self-congratulatory about being easily up the duff, as if it took any work on their part… as if it proved their superiority in some way.  Just looking about you you can see that who ends up having kids has nothing to do with merit, just luck.  If you ask me, the same can be said for the kind of pregnant woman you are and the pregnancy you have….

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